The Four R's of Personal Development

Jun 01, 2018
 

Have you heard of the four R's of personal development?

Before we get to the four R's, we have to start with a concept: your best self. How do you define your best self?

For my friend and mentor Brendon Burchard, he does it in 3 words. Take a moment and determine the 3 words that describe your best self.

When you are aware of your best self, then you can be aware of the times that you missed. Maybe it was a mistake. Maybe you fell back into a bad habit due to stress or routine. 

Now that you have the 3 words that define your best self, let's go over the 4 R's of Personal Development:

  1. Recognize when you’re not in alignment with your best self (your 3 words).
  2. Rejoice because you’re aware! Now, how you rejoice will depend on the situation. For example, if you’re in a conversation with your boss and recognize that you’re acting like an ass, this is not the time to say, “Excuse me, boss... YES! I’m showing up like an ass!” Instead, be kind to yourself.
  3. Reset. Take some time. Generate options for yourself. How can you show up as your best self? This might be an opportunity to identify people you’ll need to apologize to. People you haven’t called for a little while. Assess the capability. Don’t look at the items and say “I don’t want to do that so I’m not going to list it.” Put down anything that you can do, even if it might be something you don't want to do.
  4. Re-engage. You’re going to choose one of the pieces from the Reset phase and get back in the game!

With all this, I want you to be kind to yourself.

When you commit to a life of personal development, you’re committing to a practice. Which means you’re going to bring in something new. Then refine it, review it, assess it, incorporate it.

Then bring in something else new and repeat the process.

There are going to be times you’ll make a mistake. Give yourself permission to be human and make mistakes! It’s part of the journey!

I hope this post serves you. Until next time, I want you to Go out and Win your dreams, Today.

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